It is June 2008, and I am on a hillside overlooking the NSW country town of Boorowa.

It is a long time since I  felt any need to visit the cemetery, but today I have come to talk to my father. My research on the notorious BurmaThai railway, where he was a POW has brought me to this moment. For the past 13 years I have been following my father’s war time footsteps as a way of understanding him as a person and intern understanding myself.

Sergeant Fred Howe struggles to stay conscious. A hundred needles from the barbed wire securing him to the tree pierce his bony body; cigarette burns inflicted by his tormentors sting his bare skin; the hot tropical sun escalates his thirst and hunger tears at his gut.

In his lucid moments, Fred ponders his decision to enlist. After all, he was 34 years of age at the time, a married man and father to four children. He wonders how much longer he can last, both physically and mentally. Will the war soon be over and those who have made it thus far be on their way home, or will it drag on until not a single one of them survives?

As a young girl I had no understanding of the war. All Dad had ever told me was that, during the fighting his  mates had been shot and killed on either side of him. At the age I was then, this didn’t mean much to me. I just  didn’t understand. I never asked any questions, so I received no answers answers that I would come to crave.

I now realise why, for so much of my life, I have been at war with my father, literally and by following in his  footsteps. I am also finally understanding the degree to which his experiences impacted our relationship.

Fred Howe was a prisoner of war for more than three years...

I have been a virtual prisoner for sixty.