Trying to convince a middle schooler to listen to you can be exasperating. Indeed, it can feel like the best option is not to talk! But keeping kids safe- and prepared for all the times when you can't be there-is about having the right conversations at the right time. Distilling Michelle Icard's decades of experience working with families, this book focuses on big, thorny topics such as friendship, sexuality, impulsivity, and technology, as well as unexpected conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. Icard outlines a simple, memorable, and family-tested formula for the best approach to these essential talks, the BRIEF Model: Begin peacefully, Relate to your child, Interview to collect information, Echo what you're hearing, and give Feedback. With wit and compassion, she also helps you get over the most common hurdles in talking to tweens, including: What phrases invite connection and which irritate kids or scare them off, The best places, times, and situations in which to initiate talks, How to keep kids interested, open, and engaged in conversation, How to exit these chats in a way that keeps kids wanting more Like a Rosetta stone for your tween's confounding language, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen is an essential communication guide to helping your child through the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead and, ultimately, toward teenage success.