It was my personal heartbreak that led to my professional interest in traumatic bonding between lovers. After living through my own traumatic bond with a pathological lover, I became obsessed with finding answers: Why did my ex act the way he did? How could someone like me-a smart and empathetic woman-have fallen for him? How and why had I stayed with him? And how could I avoid getting into relationships with other people like him in the future? I also desperately wanted to help other women in the same types of relationships. Millions of American women stay with lovers who violate them. I know because I was one of those women, so I deeply empathize with their pain, humiliation, and devastation. Thus, I made it my mission to understand the whos, whats, hows, and whys. The successful navigation of my journey, combined with witnessing my patients' courage, now provides me with chances to be constantly in awe of how resilient we all are. As a wounded healer, I believe that we are all meant to be each other's supporters. I know that my suffering, growth, and education are intended to serve a larger goal: to educate women about the wolves wearing a mask of sanity that seduce them into a trauma bond, how to disengage if you are in a trauma bond, and, most notably, how to recover after one.