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See What You Made Me Do

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Power, Control and Domestic Violence

by Jess Hill
Paperback
Publication Date: 24/06/2019
5/5 Rating 5 Reviews

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A searing investigation that challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic and family violence.

At the office of Safe Steps, Victoria's dedicated 24/7 family violence response call centre, phone counsellors receive a call every three minutes. Many women are repeat callers- on average, they will go back to an abusive partner eight times before leaving for good. 'You must get so frustrated when you think a woman's ready to leave and then she decides to go back,' I say. 'No,' replies one phone counsellor, pointedly. 'I'm frustrated that even though he promised to stop, he chose to abuse her again.'

Women are abused or killed by their partners at astonishing rates- in Australia, almost 17 per cent of women over the age of fifteen - one in six - have been abused by an intimate partner.

In this confronting and deeply researched account, journalist Jess Hill uncovers the ways in which abusers exert control in the darkest - and most intimate - ways imaginable. She asks- What do we know about perpetrators? Why is it so hard to leave? What does successful intervention look like?

What emerges is not only a searing investigation of the violence so many women experience, but a dissection of how that violence can be enabled and reinforced by the judicial system we trust to protect us.

Combining exhaustive research with riveting storytelling, See What You Made Me Do dismantles the flawed logic of victim-blaming and challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic and family violence.

ISBN:
9781760641405
9781760641405
Category:
Society & culture: general
Format:
Paperback
Publication Date:
24-06-2019
Publisher:
Black Inc.
Country of origin:
Australia
Pages:
320
Dimensions (mm):
233x154x28mm
Weight:
0.56kg
Jess Hill

Jess Hill is an investigative reporter who contributes regularly to Radio National's Background Briefing and The Monthly. She has reported extensively on domestic violence and is the recipient of three Our Watch Walkley Awards, including the Gold Award for reporting on violence against women.

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Very refreshing look at domestic violence.

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“We talk a lot about the danger of dark alleys, but the truth is that in every country around the world the home is the most dangerous place for a woman.”

If you only ever read one book about domestic abuse, please make it this one. While I’d like everyone to read it, I think it should be mandatory for so many professions, including anyone involved in the judicial system, medicine, politics, teaching and counselling.

“Domestic abuse is not just violence. It’s worse. It is a unique phenomenon, in which the perpetrator takes advantage of their partner’s love and trust and uses that person’s most intimate details - their deepest desires, shames and secrets - as a blueprint for their abuse.”

I thought I knew a lot about domestic abuse already. I’ve experienced it firsthand. I’ve read plenty of fiction and non-fiction books that talk about it. I have a psychology degree. I worked in a women’s refuge for a short time. Yet I learned so much from this book.

“What should surprise us about domestic abuse is not that a woman can take a long time to leave, but that she has the mental fortitude to survive.”

When the author introduced Biderman’s ‘Chart of Coercion’, saying there are parallels between the experiences of returned prisoners of war and domestic abuse survivors, I admit I was a tad wary. Even as someone well versed in the experience of domestic abuse, I wasn’t sure how the two would or could line up. The way the author outlined the techniques, step by step, sucked me in though. It all made perfect sense and it was horrifying, but I was learning something new and I needed to find out more.

Accompanying extensive research are stories of people who have perpetrated and been victimised by domestic abuse. Prepare to brace yourself as you read these accounts as they are invariably brutal and heartbreaking, but please don’t bypass them, even though that would be easier. (Or else you risk missing out on aha! moments, like when emotional abuse is explained as someone bashing someone with their emotions instead of their fists.)

If you’ve experienced domestic abuse yourself, you will easily recognise the truth of these accounts. If you are fortunate enough to have made it this far without being impacted by this type of trauma, know that these stories are representative of so many people’s lives. Friends, family, neighbours …

I can’t imagine reading these accounts without having a visceral reaction and if you’re struggling to ‘witness’ them on the page, please be sure to practice self care. I don’t know if what helped me will apply to other readers but each time I came across something that was too difficult, I told myself that my discomfort wasn’t even in the same ball park as the horror of actually experiencing that firsthand.

The people who have told their stories have courage beyond my comprehension and I feel we owe it to them to not shy away from their words. It’s too easy to maintain the status quo; maybe what we all need is a wake up call to spur us into action.

There’s so much we still need to do.

“I want people to stop asking ‘Why does she stay?’ and start asking ‘Why does he do that?’
SURVIVOR, QUEENSLAND”

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Thank you for validating my experience, it is such a hidden and shame filled experience to read this helped me see there was nothing about me in what happened and nothing I could do to change him.

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