This updated edition to the classic planner is “a chatty, humorous compendium of traditions, advice, and wedding details geared for same-sex couples” (Publishers Weekly).

Wedding planning is never easy—but for gay and lesbian couples, it presents unique challenges. On top of watching the budget and wrangling your family, you may be wondering: How should we word the invitations? Who can perform the ceremony? What should we say to those who ask, “ . . . why?”

This trusty guide—first published when legal same-sex marriage was just a dream—tackles all that and more. Here are tips on finding the perfect venue, vows, outfits, cake, kit, and caboodle, as well as:

• Creative workarounds (Have you considered a home wedding?)


• Budget-friendly shortcuts (Supplement the tiered cake with a sheet cake.)


• The latest trends (How to buck the traditions that don’t work for you.)


• And sage wisdom, with a wink! (Rule #1: If you invite them, they may come!)

If you’d rather stay crazy about each other than go crazy, The Essential Guide to Gay and Lesbian Weddings*—*filled with *“*witty, wise, and practical advice”—is for you (Library Journal).

“All you need is love—and this book—to have a great wedding.” —Melissa Etheridge, musician and LGBT activist