Notes to a Negro is a raw, unflinching memoir that explores love, heartbreak, and self-discovery through the lens of one woman’s tumultuous relationship with a man she calls "Negro"—a name that embodies the strength, complexity, and cultural heritage of Black masculinity.

Set against the backdrop of modern African, specifically Nigerian society, this deeply personal narrative weaves together journal entries, WhatsApp transcripts, and poetic interludes to chronicle a love story that is as intoxicating as it is destructive. From the heady rush of young love to the painful unraveling of trust and intimacy, the author lays bare her vulnerabilities, mistakes, and triumphs, offering a searingly honest portrayal of what it means to love and lose in a world that often demands too much of Black women.

Through moments of passion, betrayal, and self-reclamation, Notes to a Negro challenges societal norms around race, gender, and relationships. It celebrates the resilience of Black women while interrogating the emotional unavailability and cultural pressures that shape Black men. At its core, this is a story about finding oneself in the wreckage of love—and learning to love again, not just others, but oneself.

For readers of Becoming by Michelle Obama, Heart Berries by Terese Marie Mailhot, and We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Notes to a Negro is a bold, unforgettable memoir that speaks to the universal struggles of love, identity, and healing, while honoring the unique experiences of the African diaspora.